Your complimentary field guide:
Unraveling your adult relationship patterns
If you find yourself re-experiencing similar patterns of challenging relationship dynamics and life experiences, you’re not alone! It’s normal to feel bewildered by the stress and conflict ignited in relationships with people we respect and love and anyone who pushes our triggers and hot spots.
Our adult relationships reveal the fabric of our internal world, and the subconscious ways we attempt to repeat and repair heartbreaks and missing experiences from childhood.
“The patterns of conflict and disappointment that we encounter as adults often point to unresolved pain and subconscious beliefs about safety, love, connection and worthiness we learned as children.”
If we remain unaware of our subterranean beliefs, we’ll likely repeat and reinforce outdated patterns. The good news is that we have the power to repeat and repair instead of continue to reinforce outdated dynamics and beliefs.
Through conscious exploration, we can heal, return exiled parts of ourselves back home, and embrace integrated and empowered choices.
Self-awareness is the key to updating our operating systems and integrating exiled parts of ourselves back home into our heart. This exploration is a hero/heroine’s journey of revolutionary leadership. Each one of us has the opportunity to further integrate our power and expand our embodiment of love and compassion.
To learn more about this, you may want to begin by reading the article Embracing our Adult Relationship Patterns, or you can dive straight into the field guide and receive a brief overview in the ebook.
Head below to read a brief overview and to download the book.
Adult Relationship Patterns are one of six gateways associated with the Power Reclamation Map, which you can learn more about here.
The intention of this field guide is to offer you points on a map to self-reflect on the relational patterns that serve intimacy and trust, and those that do not.
In this field guide, you'll learn about five social and emotional phases of development that every human learns beginning in the womb through the age of seven/eight. As we continue to grow and mature, we build further upon the beliefs and experiences that formed our sense of self during our formative years. Much of what was learned becomes our map for how to navigate in our adult relationships.
We'll look at nine common corresponding adaptive strategies that many of us draw upon when our needs are neglected, inaccurately attuned to, or missed consistently. These adaptations inform our personality traits and contribute to relationship patterns and triggers we navigate as adults.
Each adaptive strategy has superpowers. They also have kryptonite, which often contribute to patterns of conflict and disconnection in adult relationships. When we’re unaware of these patterns, they drive our lives subconsciously on autopilot, which often makes us feel crazy react in ways that we later regret because we couldn’t stop ourselves.